I’ve held a small survey among grad students in my department. I asked open questions: “Why we are who we are? What is your theory on what made us like this?” and added an example: “We just had a talk about Interstellar that many friends of friends of people involved in the making of the movie attended. Yet it did not occur to us to try and talk to those people. We think it’s a waste of time. Instead we prefer to stay isolated. Why?”
- Who we are – like, human beings? Grad students with minimal income and no family?
- Talking to people is hard. And there’s nothing interesting. If they come and talk to us, of course we would keep the conversation, but not the other way round.
- ‘You wouldn’t mind talking to a movie star!’
‘but they don’t want to talk to me.’
‘And what would you say?’
‘I can ask them for an autograph.’
‘they probably get that a lot.’
‘ You can always pitch them a brilliant idea for a movie’
‘They get that a lot too.’
- You meet a lot of people when you’re young, but then it shrinks to your coworkers and friends.
- (talking about ideas for a movie, involving quantum mechanics) you see, that’s why we can’t talk to people – in one minute we’re back to talking science.
- Caltech is special that way, we can talk about it and everybody around us understands. In other schools we’ll do it only 9-5, and then we spend time with people from other departments who don’t have a clue.
- I was concerned about forgetting how to talk to normal people, but not so much so after I stopped dating a non-physics girlfriend.
- There was a sci-fi book where earth collapsed, it turned medieval and to save the civilization they made monasteries to keep scientists in them. They were only allowed to get outside and mix with normal people once every 10 years – that’s when the story starts. And then I went with my friends to six flags and noticed – it feels exactly like in the book!
- ‘But there are extroverts out there! They meet new people every week and enjoy it.’
‘Yeah, but they’re not in gradschool’
- I’m not in Hollywood because I haven’t been born white and I didn’t win in random talent contest. And it’s not a stable income most of the time. Also, I think what I’m doing is much more interesting.
- Gradschool is a way of avoiding real life for a few more years. And maybe, indefinitely. Yeah, screw real life!
Meanwhile, in biology department they made a toilet seat kickstarter #PottyGlo and Huffington Post writes stories about them.